Surely there is no way to break up that is easier than another. However, the pattern may be more or less easy to cash in on if a study by Cornell University in New York is to be believed.
Whether you get tired of your partner, that the feelings are no longer there, that you can't stand the betrayal, or that the paths separate, the rupture for lack of common projects or for lack of of commitment , lovers bind and unbind.
And to find out which reason for breaking up is the most painful, the researchers interviewed 600 people with different love experiences. Verdict: the hardest part is being left for someone else.
“Being set aside for another person is the most hurtful scenario,” according to this study published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin.
According to the researchers who conducted this study, the reason why being left for someone else is more painful is mainly because “rejection promotes the feeling of exclusion and affects the feeling of belonging”.
A breakup can indeed often generate, or even increase in some people, the feeling of abandonment, and has a strong impact on self-esteem and self-confidence.
While the reasons for breaking up are very numerous, there is another one that is particularly painful according to the respondents: the breakup without any explanation.
The latter generally causes great suffering in the person left, who, having seen nothing coming, immediately imagines that the reason is linked to a third person. For some, then begin long nights to travel social networks in search of clues, or requests for explanations addressed to the person who left us, and often left unanswered.
In this study, ghosting , which is characterized by the total and sudden cessation of contact, is also among the most difficult things to take when a relationship ends.
And for good reason, this type of rupture self-explanatory and even clarity about the situation , thus giving the impression that no end has been given to the relationship. Especially since it generally provokes a great questioning of the person left, who would perhaps have preferred, on reflection, the famous "it's not you, it's me" rather than having to stay in complete blur.